Mommy’s Little Boo-Boo

I just deleted my last post. My husband was pretty upset with me for posting my daughter’s personal business on my blog. So, even though I can’t take it back, I deleted it and hope that my little boo-boo doesn’t come back to bite me in the butt.

My argument for writing the blog was twofold. One, I’m writing a blog about my life and that life, as a stay at home mom, is completely consumed with my child’s issues right now. I was at my emotional limit. I needed to vent. Two, I grew up thinking that mental illness was something shameful that should be kept a secret. And that didn’t feel good. I don’t want my kids to ever feel shame for things that are beyond their control. I’m done with secrets. I want them to be able to be open about themselves, to be vulnerable in a way I never could be, and accept that they are okay just the way they are. No matter what anyone else thinks of them.

My husband’s argument was that it should be our daughter’s decision to share her personal business with the world. I hadn’t thought about it from that angle before I had written and published my blog post and I felt pretty guilty about sharing something she may want to keep to herself. So I’m going to ask, for those of you who know my family personally, to keep the info I shared to yourselves. I hoping, when she’s old enough to understand, that she will share it and be supported by her friends and family.

I’m not sure how I’m going to continue this blog without really discussing what’s going on in my life, but we’ll see!

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One thought on “Mommy’s Little Boo-Boo

  1. It is a fine line, I guess, between venting about our own feelings and “oversharing.”
    For what it’s worth, we’ve had all kinds of issues with our daughter. She was late to speak, we’ve been to loads of docs and therapists, and ultimately she was put “on the spectrum:” something I railed against but have finally come to ultimately accept as the best possible solution for now.
    One complication to all of this has been my husband. He has struggled with ADHD, depression, OCD, and ODD all his life. He sees many of the same issues in our daughter. He feels fear and shame about this.
    I guess what I’m trying to say is that any previous experience can ultimately lead to greater understanding about whatever it is you and your kid are facing.
    Hope that made sense.

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