A Lesson on Bad Behaviors

Well, I made it through the two hour long appointment with the Behavior Specialist yesterday afternoon. Luckily I took a xanax before I left so I was feeling very calm when Caylie was spinning the doctor’s chair around and lowering her chair while she was typing her notes. And pulling on the doctor’s hair while laughing hysterically and trying to grab the doctor’s feet while Caylie hid behind the doctor’s chair, just out of reach.

Oh the things you learn about when you have children! Like, did you know that there is no such thing as ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder) anymore? Nope. Now there is only Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. This didn’t make sense to me until I learned that there are three different classifications of ADHD: Inattention, Hyperactivity – Impulsivity, or both combined.

In addition to these wonderful facts, I learned that for all children diagnosed with ADHD, 2/3 of them are also suffering from another disorder. Like a mood disorder, anxiety disorder, sleep disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, oppositional defiant disorder or other antisocial personality disorders.

After 2 hours, the doctor (should I even use her title initials BS?) told me that while she isn’t ready to officially diagnose Caylie with anything right this moment, Caylie is exhibiting the characteristics of ADHD Inattention with some combined Impulsivity as well as a possible mood disorder. And she hasn’t taken Oppositional Defiant Disorder off the table yet either. I have two very long questionnaires to fill out that are more specific to Caylie’s age and gender. And both her former teacher and her future Kindergarten teacher will have to fill out similar questionnaires.

The thing I found most interesting was all the questions I was asked about Caylie’s birth and her subsequent resuscitation. What were the circumstances surrounding her resuscitation? How long were the nurses performing CPR before she took her first breath? Did they intubate her? How long before I was able to see her? Was she still getting oxygen at that point in time? Mike and I have always wondered if any kind of oxygen loss at birth could have been the cause of all of Caylie’s behavioral issues. Now I feel like maybe our gut instincts have been right all along. Not that it changes anything, but its just one more example of how right on a parent’s instincts can be regarding their child.

I don’t know why, but I feel slightly relieved by what the specialist told me. Maybe because I can understand where some of this behavior is coming from? Because its not my fault? Because there could be a chance to treat the symptoms? I’m leaning toward all three of those reasons. Even though the idea of possibly medicating a 5 year old child bothers me, if it can stop some of the insanity in my house, I say, “Bring it on!”


10 thoughts on “A Lesson on Bad Behaviors

  1. sometimes I wonder about Izabelle and the details surrounding her birth. It was so traumatic for me and then the stuff they did to her, I am seeing signs of OCD in her already at 3 and a half. This blog made me cry, maybe it was the birth situation that started all of this strange behavior! I will have to look into it further, but thanks for posting this!!!!! It makes me feel like I am doing it right, just have a defiant daughter!!

    • You are doing everything right Stephanie, whether her behavior was caused by Izabelle’s birth circumstances or not. Because we can’t do anything about our children’s temperament or personality. I still have to tell myself that on a daily basis!

  2. I’d like to add that my dad just told me that my behavior at the age of 5 was worse than my daughter’s to the point where I was held back a year before starting Kindergarten. He says I turned out wonderfully without any medication. Thanks, dad! But my mom did go crazy in the interim. Just saying.

  3. Wow. My 4th son had some breathing issues when he was born and he has behavioral problems. He is just 2, but he is actually being evaluated by a developmental specialist tomorrow. This post was perfect for me to read today. 🙂

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